My friend told me that based off the title of my blog I should share what it's like to be engaged to a med school student. That's what I'm doing I'm sharing the story of my life on this blog. It's not a glamorous life and nothing terribly exciting, but it's my life and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
This is my post that really focuses on med school...
Andrew spends a lot of time in school, studying for school, talking about school! We talk about school and I'm here to support him and be a sounding board for when he needs someone to talk about, but frankly a lot of med school goes right over my head. I'm not trying to be mean or rude, but I believe he was smart enough to get into med school and maybe I could have, but I'm not in med school he is and I want him to figure this out for himself. We are both people that have to figure out our own process of getting through things and if our processes are messed with we are thrown off. I don't want to mess with Andrew's process, but I am there for him when he needs help. I do push him sometimes to study because that's who I am. I want to make sure he is studying and getting the most out of class and the opportunities he is given from school so that he can do whatever he wants for residency and beyond.
What I can do for Andrew is help him have fun and relax outside of school. We enjoy date nights either out of the house or staying in and doing something for free. Date nights are important for the med student and for the partner. There is not a lot of free time in med school and at the beginning of school (for quite awhile actually...) we were not focused on our relationship...he was focused on school and I was trying to just be there to support him and understand that he would be busy with school. I knew (or thought I knew) what was coming because my parents who had gone through this process had tried to prepare me for a lot of busyness. I want him to do as well as possible because I know how smart he is and how much he wants this. Some weeks we never saw each other and with our differing schedules one of us would be sleeping in our bed and one of us would be sleeping elsewhere because the bed had been hogged. It felt like we never saw each other and that little time between coming home and going to bed was not quality time. Finally I had a realization that we needed to focus more on our relationship. We needed to spend some quality time together hopefully once a week...whenever we can fit it in with our busy schedules. This has really helped us continue to build our relationship as we prepare to get married (eek!) and has made us happier.
Last weekend we had one of the best date nights in a long time! We just stayed home made some waffles and played games!! He crushed me in boggle beating me by 50-ish points!! Then we moved to mario kart and got a little competitive :). We had fun laughing and talking and just relaxing! This date night is when I realized staying home and doing something we both enjoyed could be a lot more fun that going out and spending money. So stay in and have a date night at home! Just don't forget to put down the phones and talk :)
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